National Adoption Week 2016 – ‘In Praise of Adoptive Parents’

Published: 21.10.16

An adoptee has agreed to share a heartfelt letter she wrote to her adoptive parents as Adoption UK pays homage to the heroic achievements of adopters, to mark the final day of National Adoption Week.
National Adoption Week 2016 – ‘In Praise of Adoptive Parents’

Megan, aged 17, starts her letter to Regina and Andrew Alston, by writing: “Life is funny. You never know who you’re going to meet along the way, or what your life is going to turn out like. But I can honestly tell you that if I hadn’t been adopted, I highly doubt I’d be where I am today. I would’ve given up on myself and everything else in life.”

That’s when I met the two most amazing, bravest people in the world - Regina and Andrew

Megan goes on to acknowledge her “very rocky” start in life changed when she was aged five.

“That’s when I met the two most amazing, bravest people in the world - Regina and Andrew”, she writes.

“Going through the care system, being moved around a lot, it can mess with a child’s head very badly. I wasn’t happy at all, the one person I knew I could depend on was my older sister, other than that I didn’t trust anyone. Who could blame me? I was consistently let down. I thought that this is how everybody in my life would be like. But you showed me that wasn’t how life is meant to be. You made me trust again, made me realise not everyone will let me down.”

Megan, from London, tells Regina and Andrew there is “no bond like the bond between a child and their parents”.

She writes: “You both know me in ways no one else ever will. You see a bright future for me and you always support and encourage me to try new things and work hard for what I want in life. You are my mentors, my confidants, my heroes, the people I turn to first when I am upset or if something exciting has happened. The comfort that comes from our friendship, the confidence of your faith in me and the unconditional support, is irreplaceable.”

'Unbelievably blessed'

Megan describes herself as being “unbelievably blessed” to have been brought up by Regina and Andrew.

She tells them: “What people don’t seem to understand is that family doesn’t have to be blood. Loyalty, faith, and kindness are what makes a family and that is why no one can ever take your place. Throughout my life, your valuable advice has guided me safely. Your love is the most precious thing in the world to me.”

Megan signs off her letter to her adoptive parents by telling them: “I will not follow the unforgiveable path of my birth parent, but rather those of the heroes who raised me, taught me right from wrong, and taught me that no matter what, never give up on anything; no matter how hard it is.”

Adoption UK is the leading charity providing awareness and understanding for those parenting, or supporting, children who cannot live with their birth parents. We are consistently rated as ‘Outstanding’ by Ofsted. Adoption UK’s purpose is to give voice to adoptive families and to ensure that the right support is there for them.  Anyone experiencing difficulties is urged to become a member of Adoption UK and contact our helpline on 0844 848 7900 or by emailing helpdesk@adoptionuk.org.uk