My husband and I have just been given the news that we have been unsuccessful for adoption due to him having multiple sclerosis and me having had adrenal cancer. I have been told by my doctor the chance of my condition reoccurring is slim . As for my husband. He is fit, very mobile and visually impaired. They told me that they look 15 years into the future and try to guess if your health will be ok. Ms is very broad in terms of symptoms , people have it for years without any major issues . They are saying that because if this we can not go through with it. We have support within the family if we need it. What is the point of asking if you have support within the family if they still turn round and say no??? Do they have a crystal ball or something it's plain stupid to guess how someone's health will be in 15 years. They could tell you one day that yes you can adopt because we have guessed within 15 years you will be fit and healthy and then 3 months after the adoption proccess your can be diagnosed with something terrible. Yet someone with ms is written off right away because according to them in 15 years you could be dead, where in actual fact you could be the same as you are now. I just can't understand there logic in all of this it's disgusting. I am aware they are looking out for the children and want the best life possible for them as they have been through a hell of a time, and I'm probably being selfish in saying this but there is such a thing as life having ups and downs for everyone. Everyone has to deal with loss at some point in their life. I know lots of children have already been through a lot of loss before they are adopted but nobody can guarantee that they will never have to experience some sort of loss again.
I'm so devastated by this news today but I do intend to appeal against it .