She has left
Really need some help as our adopted daughter who is now 18, emotionally about 13 has left home. I have posted over the years positive posts and done negative ones when life was awful under my husbands name but for some reason it's not working so here as me.
We adopted 13 years ago and she was 5 3/4 when she came to live with us, we have 3 birth children who we now 29, 25 and 20 and now have a little grandson who is nearly 4. She had attachment from day one although at the time I wasn't aware that's what it was, she had been severely neglected and sexually abused which we tried to deal with by play therapy and as she got into teens by counselling. She has been hard, hard work as she has had issues with friendships all through her schooling .. she constantly lies, has been manipulative, steals off us and her siblings the list goes on. She has also hot the highest award in the Guides, done her silver duke of Edinburgh and left the army cadets at 18 after being a junior corporal. We gave had lots of fun and memories but unfortunately it all seems like a distance memory.
Last Year she got involved in drugs and we came down really hard on her and we managed to get her away from the group of friends and I'm hoping that's in the past. She has got herself in quite a few unsafe situations with boys which I constantly worry about and had taken to not coming home for days staying at diff boys homes ever other day.
She to,d us last year she wanted to move out as she thinks she can live by herself, she has been gone nearly a week now and refuses to tell us where she is. She is going to the council tomorrow morning to declare herself homeless .. I am meeting her at town tomorrow after work to buy her food, do we have to say we have thrown her out so she gets help when we haven't? She texted me yesterday to say she loves us but she's different to us and wants to be by herself.
I am devastated as we have given her everything these past 13 years, she's had a loving family who care about her but all she appears to want is to have a room she can drink in till god knows Shen with god knows who. Feeling sad and need advice. Can she get help as she was in the care system or doesn't it count with her being adopted? Another issue she has found birth brother on fab a few weeks ago, we have talked about it and up to now she hasn't contacted him as he's on drugs and been in prison numerous times but that's out of our control now.
Any advice would be welcomed x