I have been away from the boards for a few years and life has been chugging along with meltdowns and ok bits and secondary school, EHCP etc.. It has had its ups and downs but we are ok. As our daughter gets older I worry more. She has no idea of how she is perceived by others and I try my best to encourage her to, for example, wash her hair properly, shave her armpits, put on deodorant, brush her teeth properly, remind her to change her pad when she has her period etc.. I am very aware that I do not want to create a child that cares about nothing else but her appearance but hygiene and general self- care can be a challenge. Poor wee mite now has braces and is very spotty which doesn't help - but they don't really matter. She is 12 but has mild learning difficulties, APD, ADHD, low IQ........
Do any of you have any advice or do you think it may come later and I should keep on trying to encourage her?