Refuse SW to contact ex and family?
We're in the process of my husband adopting my children from my first marriage. Their biological father passed away last September (we were divorced). Our allocated SW is still a student and says hardky anyone on the team has dealt with a case like ours.
She said she might want to cantact the girls' biological father's family, meaning their grandad and two aunties. The problem is that these people hate my guts. They 'helped' my ex look after them, and we found out later the children suffered significant emotional abuse from them. After his death they refused to let the children return to me and tried keeping them with them, not sending them to school, refusing to hand over their passports etc. Very toxic people. Uncooperative towards Social Services and police. I gave our SW the contact details of the SW who handled the case at the time and who has dealt with these people personally. I'm very much in favour of her contacting this lady. But I'm inclined to refuse contacting the family themselves. I'm quite confident the SW who dealt with them will back this up. We really want this adoption to happen. But our main objective is to keep our family safe, and by making contacts with these people we would jeopardise that. I'm not willing to take that chance.
Also the SW asked for permission to contact my husband's ex gf. I'm not really sure why, and I'm note sure the SW really knows herself. They weren't married, and didn't have (or cared for) any children together. They broke up in 2013 and haven't had any contact since. Hubby is refusing to give permission to contact her.
Would these things count against us?