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Hello all


We've just been to training a few weeks ago and are due to start assessment, home study etc in January which we're looking forward to getting our teeth into.


My DH's company decided to choose this time of year for redundancies so he's unexpectedly out of a job. Happy Christmas from them!


We've not yet told our LA about the redundancy and I have two questions. It would be wonderful if anyone can give any advice on this:


(1) This isn't a big deal for us in that we're optimistic that he'll find a new job after the holidays with some garden-leave pay to tide him over in the meantime. However, should we tell the LA about this right away? We don't want to make it seem like a Big Deal by contacting them specially to make a grand announcement about it. On the other hand, we don't want them to think we were hiding some information and then to seem to spring it on them if it's likely that they will think that it IS a Big Deal! Should we phone or email to let them know, specifically, or do you think it's fine to just mention it when they are next in touch with us, if he's still not in a new post by then?


(2) Is it likely to be a Big Deal to the LA? Does anyone know if this is likely to mean that we can't start training/assessment until he's in full-time work? Our original plan was that I would be the primary carer. Maybe we'd have to show a willingness to re-think that, if he can't find anything to go on to?


Any views or experiences welcome.


Thanks!


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Hard to tell how they will react.


I wonder whether they might say come back when your situation is more settled. We had a house move and 2 bereavements during homestudy and each time we had to have a break from homestudy. A bit different, but being made redundant is a loss of sorts and potentially stressful (depending on your DH's reaction to being made redundant...could be relieved Smile )


One thing I do know is that flexibilty is a great asset in adoption so yes, if you are able to be flexible about your plans that will most likely be seen as a good thing. On the other hand, being made redundant and then being a stay at home Dad (which as you say wasn't plan A) could be too much emotionally for your DH.


In your shoes I would get in touch with them and tell them your news and be proactive. Ask them upfront how this will affect the assessment. Things happen in life and when your being assessed for adoption they are looking at how you deal with things and how you work together and support each other and all that sort of thing.


Best of luck


Larsti


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Their main concern is your financial situation and how redundancy would affect it.

I told them that I was leaving my job to take a year off along with my other half so that we could both be full time parents.

That counted hugely in our favour, but we had put the finances in place to do this.

I think the ability to show flexibility is key. Ultimately there are so many other far more important factors that they will concentrate on.


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I think you probably should let them know - they need to know you can care for an adopted child financially as well as physically and emotionally etc.


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I would tell them in January when you have your first meeting with them, as you say he may find a job quickly in the new year, so if you can go to them saying, this happened just before the holidays, it not a problem as he no2 has a new job, or he’s applied for x number of jobs and we are hopeful about one.


In my experience SW like solutions to problems, so if you can give them that then they will be happier. As others have said, they may put you homestudy on hold until a job is secured and your financial position is established.


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Hi we had a very similar experience a few months back, but it was just before we were to go to panel!! aah! We had already had so many setbacks to get this far, taken over a year. We are now finally approved , we had to wait until my hubbie was in a job before we could positively push forward for another panel date, so I feel for you. However you are not going to panel and you are still in assessment so I would think it should ne ok to proceed with this. I would tell them though as they will respect your honesty and you would not like it if you had to tell them say when you went to panel that actually your hubbie had either just started a job, or worst case scenario did not actually have a job at all. it was frustrating for us at the time, but gave the opportunity for more time to work on things and for hubbie to attend a three day course. I think generally they are looking for financial security but more than that it is stability really in the household of no changes. Mu hubbie has been in his job just over a months and it is a steep learning curve for him, as he is was in his last job with a company for 13 years! No doubt though by the time you have completed stage 2 your husband will have found a new job. My hubbie too had a decent redundancy package so financially we were sound but our LA said that he actually needed to be back in a job, that were their rules!! Hope this advice helps.....


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Hi Again


Sorry I misread you have not yet started stage 1, well then I would not worry too much a by the time you have got through these stages you will hopefully be in a job, but yes best to tell them, they like honest people. Believe you me, if they don't find out now, they may find out at a later date....


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Thanks everyone for these incredibly helpful comments. Sorry if I got my stages in a muddle, Cheekycat, but thanks for clarifying after your first message. My impression is that we've finished stage 1 as we're just starting home-study and assessment having done initial checks, registration, initial meeting and preparation training but different agencies seem to call some of these bits and pieces different things. There's still a lot of time for us before we are even thinking about panel, anyway, so hopefully we'll get our ducks in a row before then.


These comments are just so helpful. Lots of really useful food for thought. We really appreciate you all sharing your experiences and reflections. You've really helped us to look beyond the obvious on this one.


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Thanks again for the comments. A happy ending to this one. We phoned the LA, they're fine with the situation and we have a first date with our social worker in January. Your comments were really helpful in encouraging us to frame things (and see things) positively. Onwards and upwards!


Happy Christmas all, if you do.


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