I'm just curious to know what others think is a sensible amount of pocket money to give our teenage children for the child's own use. AD (15) has pretty much everything that she needs provided for her so it isn't an allowance for her to balance her books so much as spending money for whatever she wants (and sort of within reason in terms of what she wants).
My AD has a GoHenry card (fab thing that allows us to put a weekly amount on what is essentially a debit card but which we can see the spend on - how much and where. We can also top up the card in seconds in the case of need; we can also remove money in case of sanction).
But my question is really how much do people think that it is reasonable to give to a 15 year old on a weekly basis? I think that my views tend to the frugal (hence my asking the question, I guess) but I am getting a sense that what we are doing isn't really working. Should we throw more money at this problem?
AD has more new things (clothes; glue-on nail things; piercings) than she could possibly afford with the money that we put on her card (and we can't see transactions for some of these things going through). So, she must be getting the money from somewhere else. She isn't stealing from us, as far as I can tell. So she must be borrowing or stealing from elsewhere (I suspect the former) - neither of which is great. If borrowing then she will never be able to pay it back so that's not really "borrowing" is it?!
So, my dilemma is whether we should give her more money so that she at least doesn't act as a parasite on others or whether to stick to our guns and let her friends work out that this is what she is doing.
AD has real trouble making friends, is immature and is extremely materialistic. AD is also quite manipulative. So, AD might quite easily do the "if you don't give me X / buy X / lend me money for X then I won't be your friend any more" type thing. Some of her friends are equally vulnerable but in different ways.
Anyone got any thoughts or advice? I would be really interested to know.