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Hello,


I have a home study tomorrow for kinship adoption tomorrow and hoping for some advice. My ex and I had a fairly bad relationship, (no violence / abuse - Just very unhappy), he had access with our daughter but when she was around 3 she made some allegations that he had exposed himself to her to her nursery. Social services were immediately involved, it all went through court and he was found not guilty. Since then he has had regular contact (court ordered but agreed by us both) is now married with three children and works as a teacher. My daughter is now 7 so this was around 4 years ago. There was other incident between us 2 years ago in which he and I agreed I would collect daughter from his wedding but his wife became aggressive and his sister and him attacked me. Police were informed but no charges pressed and his contact continued as normal. I am so worried that my history with my ex will effect ,my chances to adopt as things are now settled and civil. Just trying to prepare myself in case this is likely to be reasons for refusal as I would love to adopt. Thanks in advance.


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From the way you describe the incidents here, you didn't do anything wrong, it was your ex and the fact he is working as a teacher shows that neither incident was too serious. Also I presume that the new child is not likely to have contact with him?


It is something you would need to explore at home study, but I can't see from what you've said, its something that would stop you.


Hope all goes well x


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I think to have ongoing contact with anyone who has been convicted of sexual offences is going to be important to discuss with your agency


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PT - he was found not guilty and works as a teacher now....? Needs to be disclosed, but shouldn't be a blocker.


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The only contact she would have would be fortnightly when he drops my daughter off and that is just as she gets out the car unless we need to discuss something, but usually we just text if we need to to keep it civil for my daughter. He was not convicted of anything, it was just investigated by social services and went through family court who said on a balance of probability it was unlikely to have happened. I will tell them I just am trying to prepare myself now incase that is likely to go against me as I really want everything to work out.


Thank you both for responding Smile


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They may also be interested in your response at the time. For example, until he was cleared did you take steps to safeguard your daughter?


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Until he was cleared all contact was supervised in a professional contact centre, but once he was considered innocent by the judge we agreed contact through court.


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I am not so sure it will not raise some questions, you say no violence just unhappy, but than you mentioned he attacked you at his wedding? I also wonder why a three year old would make this sort of allegations, that's strange.

The fact that he works as a teacher does not say that much, he will not have disclosed that he attacked you (probably under the influence of alcohol?)

Maybe I totally misunderstood, so can a social worker, be prepaired for difficult questions to be asked.


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