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Hi all,


This is my first post.


Two years into adoption , our life is settled. Although i sometimes feel I'm not right. I question my moods and have diacussed PAds with husband who looked into it and assured me it's just parent life. He believes tjis normally occurs within the first six months. I checked my training notes and he seems to be right.


However, where is the best place for support? GP or social services?


Many thanks.


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You can get Post Adoption Depression later than six months (or at least it can get to the stage of being a problem after 6 months). There is also something called either blocked care or secondary trauma that adopters can succumb too (as a result of taking on the trauma of your kids). I've had both across the years...but on a positive note I have also recovered from both.


Either way, I would suggest a visit to your GP and taking a look at what you do to look after yourself - self care is really important for adopters as it is a different sort of parenting and we all need time to recharge.


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Thanks for this Bop. I think my low mood comes from me adjusting to my life change as opposed to being affected by the children's life story. Does that make sense?


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That makes sense - in that case its probably PAD (very similar to PND) - still worth a visit to see your GP and prioritising self care xx


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I had PAD. It can happen at any time post placement. Mine hit me in the first month but wasn't diagnosed and treated till much later. I took myself to the GP and got referred for counselling and I attended a local pnd course. It helped to talk to others and also know its not because we adopted. Check out pacs UK. They have fabulous post adoption support and I'd go there if I had it again.

If you ever need to chat just shout. Know you are not alone. X


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Thank you Brie. I will look into PAC. I'm actually going on some attachment training soon and I'm hoping to link back in with my LA and seek some help.


On an uncomplicated day, all is so good. But when I just want to be on my own for half an hour I never can. It's such a huge change.


Such a shame my family aren't supportive.


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