I recognise some of the names from a long time ago..I really need advise
My Ad came to me at nearly 4, we suffered a lot of problems through the years I always said it was attachment probs..but we never got the help
My ad was very difficult growing up, ticking all the boxes..at 16 she could not wait to leave home, stayed with bf parents for 6 months ( she considered this her new home) she told lies that we were cruel to her, to many people..but our friends knew what we had been through..she went from house to house contacting birth dad who was drinker / junkie and claimed to be her dad now .for several years she turned to drink heavily, used drugs..been in several abusive relationships..worse thing to happen she falls pregnant gets engaged, loses baby, few months later, falls pregnant to someone new who she only had known a few months..she decided to move back home , we could provide support she needed..she fell out with bf who is in jail..and her daughter was born. She suffers severe anxiety...she has had it quite good, baby has her own nursery, and she has her own room. We watch baby every weekend to let her go out, last weekend 2 nights and take her a few hours each day. The bitterness has returned , name calling started, she argues everything with baby in arms..I refuse to argue I walk away it infuriates her even more..she begged us to book a holiday for next year, with my son who also stays with us..which we eventually did..
She now wants to go on holiday with friends, when I said I did not think we could cope she started to think of ways she could get, i.e. Giving her friend to watch her a few days( her friend who already had a two year old that she is not fit to look after) . She shows signs of being a good mum, but she has made it plain baby is hers, never appreciates or never shows us she is happy what we do instead she criticises what I don't do..I have my own business and work from home..now it's like everything I say, she is on my back waiting for my husband to go out before she starts..I get upset, she says I am a 52 year old acting like a child, I am pathetic... it brings me back to how I lived with her for years as a teenager, I can't go back getting too old my husband is 58 cannot take the stress
I am so frightened now of losing my Grandaughter whom I love dearly, but she even talks to her tells her I am bad for not watching her Ect..sorry for long story..last week I was an f...... c.. I don't know what to do....
I want my daughter to stay if she can settle but it's as if not matter what I do it's never enough