My daughters pretends to be hurt along with other concerns
My daughter is nearly 4 & came home nearly 3 years ago and has a complex medical condition which means we have to hyper vigilant to any instances of pain or increases in her temperature. We manage her condition and to date she has had no serious medical emergencies however and this is the part that tears me up in the last three months she has started to complain of pain almost on a daily basis and will wake sobbing throughout the night. She flinches when we touch said arm or lift her up and so on the three worst occasions including this morning we have ended up in A&E. She’s had bloods, X-rays the lot and guess what there’s nothing there! They find nothing, all test come back ok. To add to ordel and make the experience worse on examination with the doctors she is lively, happy, singing & jumping swinging her arms and giving high fives. The doctors say I’m right to get her checked but have all hinted at this potentially being behavioural. I had already started to think this as In general she’s very demanding eating being another daily battle. On occasion when we don’t do as she ask (such as rub her foot in the car) she will scream & cry & reach till she vomits. although she’s only 3 she’s very articulate and can voic her wants and reasons very clearly. She is obsessed and I hate to use that word but it’s so intense with her dad that it is all she cares about some days and will only talk or acknowledge him. She frequently rejects or ignores me & has to be promoted or reminded by my hubby to be kind to mummy. She has also started wetting & pooing herself on a daily basis although she’s been potty trained for 2years. She shows no remorse and isn’t bothered by being wet ect at all. Treats, rewards and the opposite loss of toys telly ect have no effect. If she does earn a reward ect and gets it shortly after (within the hour) she’ll make a bad choice again. I also have massive concerns about her play she she very bright and has great imaginative play however she doesn’t play with others, she watches and observe and copies. That is until she finds an adult and it can be any adult she loves attention and will smile and basically preform For them. People comment she’s incredible friendly but I see it as she is too friendly. I honestly believe she would walk off with a stranger. I’m a teacher & trained nurture teacher so I know I probably over think but this list of concerns is growing.