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Matching process - Feeling underwhelmed.

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We are currently waiting at the matching stage of the adoption process. We completely understand the amount of time it might take to be matched and don't feel the need to rush through the process, but at the same time we feel like we are on our own now in a lottery with (disappointingly) minimal contact from the LA. This is after a fairly intensive assessment process and panel. Does anyone else feel this way? I think we were expecting a little more engagement qith our social worker.


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Our Social worker from the off set was very thorough and made us aware that there is initially a lot of contact then during the matching period there can be minimal. I agree though I bet it must be very strange going from all speed ahead to hearing nothing. Agree with your social worker how often you want contact as ours stated 3 months but could do it every month if we preferred.


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It was like that for us too. As soon as we were approved, we were told by our LA they had a total of 7 kids waiting to be matched and a lot of adopters on their books waiting for children, I did all the searching myself, I think during the entire year we were searching our LA contacted us three times with potential children and as soon as we had got back to them, those children had already been placed elsewhere, even if it was only a few days later. Try and be proactive, get access to the relevant sites that have profiles of children and start the search yourself.


If you sit and wait for your LA to find children for you, you may be waiting a long time.


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It can be hard to do face to face meetings like you've been used if there's nothing specific to update on to as SW are incredibly busy but like others have said be proactive then send a fortnightly/monthly update just to make sure they are aware of what you are up to and keeps you in mind too!


I always sent a message or phoned if I'd made an enquiry for more info from CWW or link maker in case anything more came of it and they were contacted. Although it feels like they are doing nothing they will be family finding behind the scenes and when there's a potential match you will find they are back in very regular contact and things become very intense again. I tried to think of it as when I didn't hear much it was because they were busy with someone else and when it was my turn someone else would have to wait!


Easier said than done but hang in there it will happen (and in the meantime keep doing all the things you enjoy that you won't be able to do for a while once your LO is home)


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Are you on linkmaker? Or maybe your L.A. expects you to be committed to them only for a bit longer first.


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