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Hi All


We were approved mid December and prior to that we were linked to a LO. We are meeting his social worker and his foster carer next Week (2nd and 4th of Jan). Any advice or questions would be helpful. He is very young and I work within child development so think will have that covered - is there anything that is obvious that I may not be thinking about????


Thanks and all the best for 2018


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Hi Stevo78,

We're at a similar stage to you and met the foster carer of a 1 year old we're linked with a few weeks ago. We've found this to be the most useful meeting so far. Fingers crossed it is helpful for you too.


In terms of questions, if you're still considering if this is the right match for you it's probably worth focusing on the things that will help you make a decision.


We found questions focused on what it is like to care for the child helpful e.g. 'What is the most difficult/best thing about caring for him/her? How is caring for them different from the other foster children they have cared for?', questions about any contact that may continue when the child is with you and questions about the child's routine that you'll probably want to replicate this as much as possible.


We also found questions about things that would affect what we might be able to do day to day helpful e.g. are they happy being out and about or do they get upset with too much stimulation? Do they like interacting with other children? What are they like when being looked after by someone other than the primary foster carer?


We met at the foster carers so were able to see where the LO sleeps which has helped us think about how to prepare their bedroom, things to add to our shopping list etc. However, some more practical things could be left to a later time as if it turns out anything like our situation, we are now in touch with the foster carer directly so can ask questions as they arise.


Hope that helps. Good luck Smile


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Thanks so much for your response Shenru - it was really helpful. So officially we are still considering him but unofficially he is the one for us... They are coming to our house. Thanks again.


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Its perhaps more important to ask about the child's parents; physical and mental health, family history, about their childhood, and known or suspected substance abuse, what contact the child has had, where, how often, the quality of that contact in terms of parent/child interaction. What the plans are for discontinuing that if its still going on - will it be reduced and then stopped, how long before introductions.


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Thanks Midge - we have a lot of that info in his CPR which I intend to go through with the SW when we meet her.


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Yes, do go through it and get verufication. These boards are littered with adopters who thought the CPR was comprehensive but turned out not to contain vital information and facts that may have caused adopters to pause and think.


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Ask what a typical day looks like - this will give you clues about energy and concentration levels


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