Keeping calm in class
Can anyone help with suggestions for helping.a child (13) keep calm in classroom? Especially if teacher is causing the child to feel unjustly accused or picked on and childs emotional regulation is not good. Alternatives to swearing at teachers might help! His present school is very good for him in many ways and I don't want him expelled, which could happen if this continues, but obviously they cannot tolerate this or nobody would send their kids there ( private school) He would not cope well in big and only local comp.
Also, ways of explaining to teachers about restlessness, spacing out( disassociation) flashbacks hyper vigilance and stress of specific subjects can cause the child not to absorb the lesson, and which take quite a while to get back to a regulated state if being told off. And ways for teachers to handle it differently, especially the teachers who use sarcasm which some kids genuinely don't get ( without making teacher feel criticised, difficult I know ) Ways for child to cope without feeling different ( which they will do if safe space means moving seat or leaving classroom, though maybe being sent an errand , or a run round the grounds, might help if it can be done without shaming.
I did give in some info before, leaflets about trauma kids in classroom, but I think a set of specifically tailored strategies for my child is more likely to get through the system. as they have offered to meet with us and therapist to discuss same. They do know quite a bit about his background and why he does things but obviously have to resolve this for everyone's sake.
It doesn't help that there are a lot of kids with problems in his class and some get allowed more leeway due to their needs.
Any thoughts thanks?