We are approved adoptors and temporary foster carers, with an EPP 7 month old child with us since 2 months old.
We have both bonded and our birth child very much so. However my husband is now seeming to pull away from baby and is unsure if he wants to apply for the adoption order.
We have been matched and have the planning meeting soon, with a plan for the adoption order within the next two months being applied for.
He feels his existing long term health conditions mean he cannot provide the life for the baby and that it will be a struggle to be the stay at home dad. We have discussed me giving up work if things become bad and how we can financially manage things.
I'm unsure but feel he may be depressed but he doesn't want to speak to anyone about it.
He's saying too himself he has a week to decide weather he wants to adopt or not and has also voiced saying to the SW's about delaying the adoption order until he's had more time.
I can see things from his point of view and very much so simpathise with him however I've got no one to talk to about how I feel. I can't talk to SW as we've had experience of them saying they will take child back if issues, friends are abit far away emotionally and close family are so invested I don't want to worry them.
I see our baby as ours already and it would be like giving up our birth child if the baby went back. I have even thought about options of separation from husband and single adopting. I don't want to do this but I can't see my future without our baby.
Any support grately received.