So we are going through the fostering process with a hope to adopt a little girl of 20 weeks. We also took in the 3 year old and 11 year old.So in November we were asked to attend court as my wifes sister is in trouble. We were asked to take the children to save them going into the foster system.
So to cut a long story short we have been going through the fostering process as we were told we have to be full registered, so the children in 12 weeks, have hit all major milestones and come on better than most they have seen. So today we have been told that if we are not willing to give our ex contact we would be refused and not accepted by South Gloucestershire.
We have 12 references knowing us back to those days, they have contacted my oldest daughter from the marriage. So we both separated in 2001 and 2002 from our ex partners. So 13+ years of torment from my side after separation and divorced for 10 years. My wife and i have been together 11 years and married 9 years. all the children from the current relationship and my eldest daughter have been contacted,
They are now talking about the 3 children who has 2 biological parents, 2 of the children's dad want the eldest 2 and to support and ensure the children maintained contact we would take the baby, so they could stay in sibling contact.
We have been told now because the dad of the elder 2 is not willing to take the baby he would not get custody of the 2 biological kids,
What is this country coming too when willing hard working people are treated like this, any advice would be great?