grandchildren loved and lost
My AS and his wife have had 6 children. The first three went into long term foster care. The fourth was adopted. The youngest two are now in care. Today I met up with an independent expert who is writing a report. We had a very long talk. My son had many problems, including ADHD and FASD, but he has been by far the better parent and has been caring and kind to the children. His wife however is very dominating. She fits the profile of someone suffering from antisocial personality disorder. The two youngest children have been taken into care on account of my DIL's behaviour and failings. She is a toxic mother. The plan is that the two youngest children will remain in care, the youngest to be adopted. If they have more children, each baby will be removed at birth and go for adoption. It is all very sad. My DIL is following the pattern of her own mother, who would also qualify for a diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. All of her 8 children went into care. I therefore now have no grandchildren. My AD has no children by choice (she has had two terminations).
I cope with the loss in my own way. Six months ago I adopted a little dog from Romania. I share her with my daughter who adores her. The little dog has done so well. I plan to adopt another. I also support two young girls living in poverty, one in Africa and one in South America. I love getting their letters and drawings. I keep myself busy. I'm still studying for an Open University science degree, play the piano and do art. I still enjoy life.