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Fostering/SGO for family member - violent biological father

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looking for some advice. My niece is currently in foster care and I am being assessed for fostering/sgo. My brother has mental health issues and can become violent. We have had no incidents at our house with him for over 4 years however damage was caused to my vehicle last night and whilst i cannot prove it, i know it was him as yesterday certain information i had given the SW came to light and he wasn't too happy about it. I'm now concerned they will not let my niece come to me as they will say he could come to the house again. any ideas? We're installing CCTV and the house already has police flags due to his violence. he lives about 10 minutes away. We have his other daughter regularly at weekends and holidays and have done without issue for over 10 years. I manage his contact with her due to his issues and she hasn't actually seen him since summer. i know it's the stress of court proceedings etc that has tipped him over the edge but i'm worried this will ruin everything now. I've already told my sw that we would be willing to call police if he ever turned up and also agreed to the possibility of moving house. I don't know what else I can do and I'm desperate for my niece to stay with the family if possible. Adoption would break so many hearts.


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Poor you! Firstly- don't panic! The court will do all they can to keep children in their families. Adoption is the last resort. Im a SW. If I was assessing you then my primary focus would be how you could safeguard the baby from dad and if you could do this. It's not your fault that the car was damaged but it may be that you need to take some practical steps. Ultimately if you want this little one. You may need to consider moving house, or using injunctions to prevent him from coming near you for example. I don't think it will ruin things but I would be concerned about your brother posing a risk to baby on an ongoing basis. If she stays with you she needs safe permenance and he may jeapodise this. Be honest with sw- demonstrate your commitment and explain how you'd be willing to negate risk x


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thank you. We're installing CCTV tonight and there is an old injunction from 2012 which my mum took out after he assaulted her. i've heard the court talk about this so maybe they would seek to reinstate this or back it up?


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Worthwhile talking to.police direct to flag up.your concerns???

All the best

Johanna


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You'd have to make a new application although without evidence it may not met the threshold. X


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I've logged it with the police but as there is no CCTV and no witnesses they can't really do anything, however I have the crime ref no to keep a record if it. We've installed CCTV today and my SW is coming tomorrow so I'll talk it through with her. Thanks for the comments guys, I was just a little panicky this morning!


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