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Hello, we are white British and Far East Asian couple, who have just started looking into adoption process after 7 years tried for a birth child.

We are looking into concurrency or normal adoption and haven't decided to go with VA or LA yet, and we are not thinking about International adoption.


I have read information about black and Middle East Asian mixed background children who are waiting for adoption but I would like to know if there are any children from Far East mixed backgrounds (China, Korea, Japan, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Singapore, Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Malaysia, Cambodia, Vietnam etc). I normally put myself in "Other Asian" category, which appears to be very small group on Adoption Link statistic page but I would like to know more about the reality.


I would also like to hear from other adopters/ prospective adopters from similar background who have adopted or have been trying for domestic adoption in UK and social workers who have involved with or heard about such cases. Any opinions, suggestions and real stories will be appreciated.

I am looking forward to hearing from you.


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I think it's likely you will need to go to a VA one that specialist in BME adoption also have you thought about children were the race is unclear


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Hi PurlOneKnitOne,


Thank you very much for your reply.

Hmm, that's what I thought it might be. Would VA be better because they can look for right profile children beyond the council borders?

We just haven't been able to make up our mind as we are tempted for Concurrency as well. We have good emotional resilience as we've gone through quite a lot in the past, so we can take risks for the child to provide initial stable home whatever the final outcome would be. I need to ask lots of questions to LA SW for the likelihood of concurrency in their areas to make final decision.


Yes, we will be interested in children whose ethnic background is unclear/ unknown, as I have met quite a lot of white British - Far Eastern couple's children who cannot tell their background straight away. So as long as they look "natural" with white dad and Asian mum at first glance, real background does not really matter. I wish I could say that I do not mind with any ethnic backgrounds, but sadly my home country is a lot more conservative than UK so we just don't want our child(ren) to get mean comments by strangers when we visit there...


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We have friends where one is white British and the other is Chinese and they couldn't find any matches in the UK even with saying they would take a child from any of the countries you mentioned. They adopted from Thailand instead. Kazakhstan is also reopening for intercountry adoption again. You can contact the intercountry advice line for information on the process.


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Hi EverHopeful5,


Thank you very much for information. Real story is always very helpful and your friend's situation was exactly what we were worried about.

If we cannot find any matches with child(ren) who is close to my race, we would probably look for one who reflect at least my husband's heritage. We live here, work here and pay tax here, so we would like to provide a home to children already in this society.

However, we might keep inter-country adoption in our mind, in case we really struggle to find any matches in the UK.

Thank you very much for your advice.


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I know someone who's adopted two very similar children so it can and does happen. I would research different areas, think about where there are concentrations of Far East Asian communities and contact social services in those areas to try and get a feel for the current situation. Not saying they will assess but at least you'll know where you stand.


You're not easily - or cheaply - going to be able to transfer from domestic to international adoption once you're approved.


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Hi Jpuk


We have an identical heritage profile to yours. We had no fixed views on the heritage of the children we wanted to match with but we did not see a lot of children from Far East backgrounds when going through the matching process and that was when there were more children than adopters. We were keen to adopt in the UK for the reasons you identified and in the event that is what happened. The children are of UK heritage but are fascinated with DW's Far East heritage. Your mixed heritage will definitely be a plus because it will give you good insight into lots of issues relevant to adoption. Good luck.


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Hi Donatella,


Thank you very much for your comment, it is a great encouragement to hear that it can happen. I will contact around councils where the community might be to collect more information.


Yes, we would like to keep it domestic as far as we can but just keep Inter-country adoption in our mind as the last resort. I have done enough paperworks like visa applications etc for myself, so I can imagine how slow and expensive it would be... I would rather use our limited resource on spending special time with our future children.


Thank you very much for food for thought.


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Hi tree.fin888,


Thank you very much for sharing your experience, it is very assuring to hear that there is another couple from same background adopted children successfully in the UK and so lovely to hear that your children are fascinated with their mum's heritage - I would be on top of the world if that happens! Do your children speak your wife's language?


I've got a sneaky feel that finding exact background match could be difficult for us, but we will try to be flexible, work hard on training and hopefully we can have a lovely family like yours one day.


Thank you very much for your inspiring and encouraging comment!


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jpuk - sent you a pm. Sorry for the delay, been off line!


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Hi tree.fin888,


Thank you very much for PM, I've just sent you a reply. I really appreciate your advice and encouragement!


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