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Was wondering at what point people here told there families they were adopting? I'm a fair bit superstitious and although our families know we intend to adopt they don't know when we want to do it, even though I know it sounds silly I feel as if telling too many people too soon would jinx our chances.


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I think its very much a personal choice, rather like when you are trying to conceive or pregnant - there is no right/wrong answer, just what feels right for you and your family, which will also reflect the type of relationship you have with each other.


FWIW we have always been pretty open with family about these things and they were aware pretty much immediately - in fact their support as we went through the process was invaluable.


Am sure you will make the right choice for you.


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We told parents but my OH didn't want to tell siblings or friends until we got approved 'just in case we didn't'. As it turns out siblings had to be contacted for a reference before approval anyway, and also a couple of friends! We are set for panel on the 7th February! ☺


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We told family and friends from the very beginning. I think it helped family, because they had time to think about it and we had time to educate them about adopted children's needs. At the beginning we talked a lot about it, then - when the process took forever - things quietened down. It helped to be able to talk it over with lots of people.


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Thanks guys, less nervous on jinxing and bad juju now haha


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We told family and friends very early on but work colleagues much later - I wish I had shared with them though as they would have been very supportive and it felt awkward telling them so late in the process.


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We actually told all our close families and friends as soon as we decided to do it, we had spent the last two years going through TCC and 6 miscarriages all alone so decided to share our journey so we had people to talk with? Its been lovely being open with people, and if anything goes wrong we've got a great support network to fall back on. x


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