Do you follow your head or your heart ???
Hope everyone as had a good Christmas.
So for a while now we have been contemplating adopting for a 2nd time. Little one is now 4 and a half and quite settled in school and quite frankly due to our ages its now or never !
The thing is all my gut instincts are telling me no for so many reasons and hubby feels pretty much the same but our hearts just wont let us give up on the idea. I know that might sound a bit corny but it really does break my heart at the thought of NOT doing it again. We always thought and said we would like to have 2 children but there are so many things that worry us about it .
A few of our concerns are -
Are we too old
Do we have the time and energy
How will effect current AS
Are we better to settle for what we have and not temp fête,as it were for a 2nd time
Will we manage 2 different life stories etc and could it become quite complex
The list just goes on and I have to say the excitement that was there the first time around just isn't there now,I guess now we know a bit more what adoption and post adoption involves and what it can sometimes turn out like.
If we dont do it again,I honestly think I may need some form of counselling to cope with the grief of not having another child.
What would you do ?
Head or heart ???
What are your thoughts ?