Decision to adopt with birth child
Before we adopted I read lots of forums and articles about adopting with birth children and most of what I read scared me and almost put me off as it was mostly negative. However, we went ahead and I want to let people know it was the best thing we ever did. She was the missing piece of our jigsaw and I can truly say she completes our family.
We were worried as we loved our birth daughter so much that we wondered how we could love another child the same and I can honesyly say that love is 100% the same for her too. I love her as if I had given birth to her as it feels the same love as my birth daughter.
We were lucky as we adopted her at 7 months so the attachment came easy for us as she relied on us so much. It did come with a 6 month settling in period as she wouldn't cuddle into us and always had her arms out stretched at the start but after this period she would give us kisses and cuddle us tigh. When she called me Mummy for the first time it's the best feeling. It took 2 months for our birth daughter to come to terms with it too. She was 7 years old at the time and even though she was involved in the process she was very jealous and felt pushed out at the time. She vented it mostly towards me and I had to work hard to convince her she was still so important and how much we loved her.
I wanted to put this story out there so people can feel more positive whilst going through the process. It certainly worked in the end for us.