Christmas presents from foster carers
I'm looking for advice on how to handle our AD's foster carer. AD has been with us 2.5yrs but they still expect frequent photos and get in touch around her birthday & Christmas to give her presents. This year I was unable to meet her to collect the gifts so she left them for me to collect in work. I don't mind occasional updates for her & meeting up occasionally (AD came to us at 12 months & doesn't seem to have any memory of foster carer). My problem at Christmas is that there were 6 wrapped parcels for AD and I'm so careful that both AD & AS have the same number of parcels on Christmas morning & now with precious little time left do I have to find another 6 items for AS?? She also always gives some item of clothing which are horrendous, how do you say thanks but no thanks?? This lady has been a foster carer for many years but seems to have a real fixation with my daughter, even her WhatsApp profile picture is of her and my AD! I get on reasonably well with her despite her making our introduction period a nightmare.
Am I being petty or worrying about an non-issue or is there anything anyone would recommend?