Childcare...when and who?
Five months into placement with 20 month year old. He is doing very well in terms of attachment and settling and he is utterly lovely. I also have a birth Son of 6 who has overall coped very well , with a few wobbles but seems to be doing well. Have found things very difficult on a practical level although that is improving, but the worst is the emotional roller-coaster of making this new dynamic work and keeping head above water but I dont think I am experiencing anything abnormal..... I feel like over all I am doing well and just dealing with the struggles that come from being a single parent of two. I do not have any set breaks from the Children as my eldest has very little contact with Dad due to his mental health issues. I have wonderful family and friends but circumstances changing for a few key members of support network has ment that I am not getting the support or breaks required. Before the Christmas period I was experiencing very low moods and the health visitor is pushing for me to use a Childminder 1/2 days a week so I could have proper breaks and generally be in better shape for both the Children. At the time I was horrified at idea but then began to accept maybe it could be a better option for both of us. However over the last few weeks I have had time to dwell on it, have been feeling better and feel this could be very damaging for my little one. Question - Do you grit your teeth, accept life is going to be very tough for a while but hope that keeping them with you full time will benefit them more in the long run...Or is is impossible to be superhuman and realize you may need help and this means doing something aka Childcare this early on that you never planned to do.....Advice, experience appreciated...!