Child disclosing past sexual abuse to school children
This is a tricky one.
Our 2 dds were both abused by a birth family member and our eldest (10) has started discussing this in school. There have been 2 separate incidents within the last few weeks. Firstly, it was shouted at a group of boys because they didn't want dd to play with them (it's not fair - I was abused!). The second incident was a week later when she told two much younger girls. The school think on both occasions, she'd said it because she wanted attention / people to feel sorry for her.
After the first occasion I explained that she can always talk about this at home if she wants to - because home is a safe place where she can talk about whatever is troubling her. I also tried to explain that we need to be very careful what we say to people we don't know, because it's not possible to take something back once it's been said. I was speaking on the hoof slightly, but tried to help her see her past as something that could be shared with a really, really good friend when she is older - but that children probably wouldn't be able to understand.
I've just had a call from the school to say they were contacted this morning by another parent. Apparently dd told her children she'd been sexually abused. Fortunately, the other parent is a school teacher and has been very considerate about it. This would have been Friday last week.
I don't want dd to feel ashamed, but I'd like her to know that this is something she can talk about at home, but it would be better if she didn't discuss it at school with people she barely knows....
I'm lost for what to do. She doesn't have many friends and tries extremely hard, but isn't very popular. She's going to high school next year and I'd really hoped this could be a fresh start for her.