Birth Family Issues
Hi, this is my first time posting here and I am looking for reassurance. We are eight weeks into placement and our LO is settling in well. After a visit from LO's SW today I am feeling a bit unsettled, LO's birth fathers family have contacted SS and passed them cards for LO etc, which is not something we have agreed to. We are happy with annual letterbox contact for both sides of birth family. However, birth father has previously queried parentage yet failed to turn up for an arranged DNA test...we have said we will do letterbox contact once a DNA test is done. I don't want the SW to think we are being obstructive but I feel that in the future our LO has a right to know one way or the other, and am uncomfortable maintaining letterbox contact to a family who may turn out not to be related. Yet I feel unsettled as I don't want SS to think we are being obstructive but feel that if birth father expressed doubts then it should be followed up before any letterbox arrangements. Thank you in advance for any responses.