Attachment Disorder - 18 year old
This is the first time I have used a form like this - so please excuse the rather rambling message.
We have recently realised that the challenging behaviour presented by our 18 year old AS is something more than being a 'typical teenager'.
He joined us at 2 years old and always had some behaviours that we didn't like - lying, temper tantrums, along with a relationship with my wife that ranged from desperate for love/approval to overt rudeness and disregard for her feelings.
More recently he has displayed an inability to develop healthy friendships particularly with girls, with a heavy reliance on social media messaging.
In work and more adult social worlds (he is a keen sportsman) he is popular and successful, and is probably seen as a harmless wally when he says and does daft things.
We have managed these behaviours with varying levels of success until recently.... he has been caught stealing and is verbally aggressive with his Mum. The only way to get through to him that he is doing something wrong seems to be having a row - when the message gets through he switches to 'I'm useless' , 'I'm a failure'
We have started to work with social services and have a social worker who seems to 'get' the situation we are in, but it would be great here the experiences of other who have had similar issues. A bit of a sanity check I guess.
My wife is at breaking point with the repeated problems