Adoption when birth child has Special Needs
I am at a VERY early stage of looking into the adoption process. So far I have done heaps of internet research, phoned some helplines and have a few adoption events lined up on my calendar to start.
My circumstances are Im a single mum carer of a soon to be six year old. I own my own three bed home outright (has a separate room for a new child) and I am a qualified teacher having worked in education and with children (including SN children) for the whole of my career. Me and my son's dad are on very good terms- he truly is a co-parent to our boy and I have a good support network around me.
I feel I am ready to extend our little family now- for all the reasons any person wants to adopt. I have no interest in having a romantic relationship and I have fertility issues to boot so adoption seems ideal.
My main question/need for advice is the fact that my son has special needs. He is on the autistic spectrum and has moderate learning needs and goes to a special school.
He is VERY easy going (for a child with his diagnosis), thrives being around other children and would make a super older brother. I am very lucky to have such a special little sproglet in my life who has taught me so much.
I am concerned that him having SN would be 'held against us' not to mention the fact that I am a single parent. I know that if my son's need would be an issue to being a parent to another child, I wouldn't even think adoption. Yes there will be different challenges to having mainstream birth children but nothing that couldn't be worked through to give a child a happy, safe life with us.
One helpline I phoned suggested that it might be a bonus as I have 'extra' parenting skills that would suit a child with emotional needs etc. I guess I just need reassuring before I venture into the unknown!
I am wondering if anyone on is in the same position, regardless of where you are in the process?
Lastly I don't feel I would be able to adopt a child with a disability or special need on my own- this isn't really an option for me.
Thanks in advance!!!