Adoption Stats – my family’s reality
Ok so I know this is a small sample size but I was reflecting on the experiences and outcomes of all the adoptions that have occurred in my close family. Just a small sample I know but it makes for some interesting reading…
We have three adopted children (now adults or nearly adults) in our close family placed within 2 different family units.
AS1 – placed as a baby at a few weeks old. Was rebellious, often got into fights and found school difficult (permanently excluded once), intelligent but hated to be told what to do (still does!). Did run away from home in late teens and had no contact with family for a few years but returned to the fold, now very close to parents, happily married (fairly late in life), got a good career and has step-children who they adore.
AS2 – placed in same family as AS1 again as baby at a few weeks old. By early teens was experimenting with hard drugs. Stole, cheated, did anything for cash and caused untold misery to his family for a number of years. Sadly died in early 20’s due to drug-related damage to their health.
AS3 – placed in different family from above as older child, things went ok until teens, experimented with drugs, stole, lied, violent episodes, heavy drinking. Now moving into late teens and showing some signs of maturing. Not sure where this will go……
So there you go, makes stark reading but we are hoping for 2/3 successes! Clearly not one has been plain sailing.