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My dd's school is thinking of running an "adopt a teddy" stall. Kids would send in their old toys for others to buy. The idea makes me very uncomfortable - it would be fine if they weren't referring to it as adoption, but to me it's showing adoption as happening where 1) the original owners don't want their toy any more, 2) others looking and choosing the cutest and 3) people then paying for the one they want in order to own it. I have voiced my concerns - am I being too sensitive? I don't mind people "adopting" animals at the zoo but this just seems different somehow - what do people think?


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I agree with you - its a bit insensitive - could they call it swap a teddy or something? Also the animals at the zoo is sponsorship rather than adoption so should not be called this either. Its not just for our kids - as we explain what it means - but confusing for other kids


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I totally agree - adoption isn't a financial transaction where you choose what you want on the stall, hand over a pile of cash, get the cute one and everyone lives happily ever after.


Could you persuade them to look at in a different way, perhaps? Donate a teddy on the one side; and donate money to "find a new family" for the teddy on the other? The school would get the same result but it might be a more sensitive, inclusive way of looking at things.


I'm assuming that this is primary school and I would suspect from my experience that this would go down with the children better anyway.


Just a thought.


Peahen.


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Is this the school or the PTA? If it's the latter it can be hard to get the alpha mum's on the committee to listen ( my personal experience of PTA at my daughters' schools). If school you could go to governors if head won't listen.


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While we're on this subject...


I saw an article in a Sunday paper this weekend about people "adopting" dogs from overseas.


Don't get me wrong. I like dogs, I think it is really nice that people have them and I can definitely see that they are part of a family. However, I have to say that I do get slightly wound up when I see people equating a pet to a child. Maybe I'm a too sensitive!


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We have adopted a dog from overseas and my kids totally love the concept - she's one of them! It allows them some insight into their own lives - they see our pooch's fears and triggers and know a bit about her old life and understand what's going on for her. Overseas dogs have usually had really tough lives - on the streets or as hunters - I believe Holly Van Gulden uses rescue dogs in her counselling work (and also non-rescues - she lets the kids compare, I think?). But I think she was a dog trainer in a previous life!


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There was an Adopt a Teddy stall at my son's primary school when he was in Yr 1. I tried to explain to the PTA, suggesting that a Teddy Tombola would be the same, but they'd always had the stall and the whole school fete would be the same without it, etc, etc. I intended speaking to the Head, but my dad was moving house and I didn't have the energy for it all and I let it go. We weren't going to the fete anyway. It was a big mistake - the week before it the Head had spoke at the assembly about adopt a teddy - bring in your unwanted/unloved teddies so they can be adopted. My son had quite a few questions,comments during the day from other children and cried for two hours that night. The rest of the summer term was a total write-off as he couldn't settle back into school. I wrote to the Head that evening and she was so apologetic and she was crying when she spoke to me the following day - it had not crossed her mind to make the connection unfortunately. I would speak to someone before the posters, appeals in class, etc start appearing. Good luck!


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There was an Adopt a Teddy stall at my son's primary school when he was in Yr 1. I tried to explain to the PTA, suggesting that a Teddy Tombola would be the same, but they'd always had the stall and the whole school fete would be the same without it, etc, etc. I intended speaking to the Head, but my dad was moving house and I didn't have the energy for it all and I let it go. We weren't going to the fete anyway. It was a big mistake - the week before it the Head had spoke at the assembly about adopt a teddy - bring in your unwanted/unloved teddies so they can be adopted. My son had quite a few questions,comments during the day from other children and cried for two hours that night. The rest of the summer term was a total write-off as he couldn't settle back into school. I wrote to the Head that evening and she was so apologetic and she was crying when she spoke to me the following day - it had not crossed her mind to make the connection unfortunately. I would speak to someone before the posters, appeals in class, etc start appearing. Good luck!


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What an insensitive head! Don't these people understand that words said like this have repercussions ? I hate the bring your unloved and unwanted teddy in to be adopted! it beggars belief that adults think this is what adoption is all about really makes my blood boil!!!


Westi


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thanks everyone!! It was the PTA but I spoke to the chair afterwards and she completely understood my concerns and was happy to re-brand it as teddy tombola - I think I just wanted some reassurance that I wasn't over-reacting, so thank you all! As well as our kids I was also concerned for the looked-after children who must be in school, who haven't yet found anyone to adopt them... So sorry to hear about your experience Katy Koala, must have been so hard for you all - and for the head - these things are clearly due to thoughtlessness rather than unkindness!!


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