4 years old using word adopted
Our 4 years old AD knows that she is adopted and started to use the word adopted. She would say something like ‘my hair is different (curly) than yours mummy, is it because I am adopted? ‘
We are open with her about the adoption. However she does not fully understand what being adopted means at this age. We are slightly concerned about her telling all her friends at school that she is adopted. We would rather her not tell everyone at this age and maybe tell some special fiends when she is older and understands more.
I don’t want to tell her that it’s our secret, because I don’t want her to grow up thinking that she is a secret and something that she should be ashamed about.
Any suggestions how to deal with this such that the 4 years old understand. She is very intelligent!