3 weeks into placement and struggling
We have had our two placed with us for just over 3 weeks, they are age 5 and 10. All going well on the surface - we are well aware that there are hundreds of issues we don't have to deal with! They have started school locally and seem to be settling in okay. Have had a few issues but lovely FCs at end of phone for anything, they have been great.
I just feel I'm struggling with it all... feeling down and weepy a lot of the time. I'm off on adoption leave. Hubby seems to be fine although he's aware that he only has 1-2 hours on weekdays with them when he gets back from work as they go to bed 7pm or thereabouts (they really need loads of sleep or find the next day very difficult) and wishes he had more time.
I feel overwhelmed by it all... very tired which doesn't help... don't know if it's me putting too much pressure on myself or what. Yesterday hubby said he didn't think I was bonding enough with them, especially the older one, his solution is that I should behave more like he does with them. He's very hands on, funny, silly with them... I'm the organised one who makes sure everyone gets fed and gets to school on time etc. I get his point that I don't just want to be seen as the "boring" one... but I think he just expects me to behave like him and I don't think that's the answer. I think I need to find my own common ground with them and that their relationships with me are going to be different to their relationships with him.
Any advice would be welcome - is it normal to be feeling down / struggling at this stage? Any advice on building attachments and kids' different relationships with each parent?